Dominick T. DeSimone

Dominick Tomas Desimone

“Always keep your beautiful imagination and exquisite humor.” –Rebecca Puig

Where does one begin when describing the life of a talented, spirited and beloved artist? Tom was someone who was devoted…devoted to his life partner, family, friends, cherished dogs, the theater, art and to helping others unlock their greatest potential. His love light was so bright, that he would light up a room just by walking in, and his luminous spirit continues to shine in each and every one of our hearts.
Dominick Tomas DeSimone was born to Linda and the late Salvator DeSimone on August 2nd, 1961 in Washington, DC. His family and loved ones include: his mother, Linda DeSimone-Kuzoian and her husband Robert Kuzoian, his life partner Ken Renaud, his sisters Grace Abbene and Jean Gesualdi, his brother Jim DeSimone, his dearest friends: Fran Baffoni, Maria DiRaimo, and Bob and Krystle Baxter. He had an enormous circle of friends…you know who you are and how much you meant to Nick, Tom, Killer, Tommy. Tom was also loved by his 10 nieces and nephews, and 9 great nieces and nephews.

Tom lived a colorful life, full of adventure and travel. He lived in many places throughout the States (some he loved, others, not so much), including: New York, NY; Auburn, NY; Washington, DC; Boston, MA; Coral Gables, FL; Naples, FL; Cranston, RI and Warwick, RI. He was a roving thespian who always offered a ready supply of intelligent, spontaneous wit, humor and sarcasm, seamlessly navigating both uncharted territories and tedious provincialities.

Tom attended the Boston Conservatory at Berklee, where he cultivated his talent for music, singing, acting and dancing. He went on to star in numerous productions including but not limited to: Jesus Christ Superstar, Little Shop of Horrors, Annie Get Your Gun, My Fair Lady, Damn Yankees, Annie, Chicago, Charlie Hall’s Ocean State Follies and News in Review. Over the last year, Tom poured all his creative energy into an original series and concept called Ma Mafia. Ma Mafia’s one pager can be found at the bottom of this page.

There will be a celebratory meal of Tommy’s life Sunday February 18, 2018 from 11am to 2pm at Cucina Rustica, 555 Atwood Ave Cranston, RI 02920. Tom’s family kindly requires RSVP in order to provide the location with an accurate head count. Please RSVP to If you are unable to email please call Bob Baxter at (401) 486-1289.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests a donation be made to the Providence Animal Rescue League. Please copy and paste the web address or type it into your address bar to donate.

The family would love to share some of Tommy’s musical talent with you. Copy and paste the web address or type it into your address bar to access his awesomeness.

High Flight
by John Gillespie Magee, Jr
Oh! I have slipped the surly bonds of earth,
And danced the skies on laughter-silvered wings;
Sunward I've climbed, and joined the tumbling mirth
Of sun-split clouds, --and done a hundred things
You have not dreamed of --Wheeled and soared and swung
High in the sunlit silence. Hov'ring there
I've chased the shouting wind along, and flung
My eager craft through footless halls of air...
Up, up the long, delirious, burning blue
I've topped the wind-swept heights with easy grace
Where never lark or even eagle flew --
And, while with silent lifting mind I've trod
The high untrespassed sanctity of space,
Put out my hand, and touched the face of God.

Ma MaFia Created by D. Tomas Desimone
Bucktomas Productions: 954-298-4641/Email:

Ma MaFia is the story of three best friends SoFia DeSalinda, Nancy Katzon and Ester Merlot. Spanning the 1970’s (before women had many rights, support networks, Phil Donahue or Oprah) continuing through the decades following up to the new millennium. These women are young mothers who grew up in abusive homes and end up in abusive marriages. Their desperation to end the cycle of abuse combined with the dream of having total control of their lives and destinies, inspires them to start a small bakery bringing them, over the course of this series, wealth and power beyond their wildest dreams! The bakery they name ‘Ma Ma Fia’s’ (the sign is accidentally misspelled to read ‘Ma MaFia’s) builds and becomes a shelter for other abused and disenfranchised women whom SoFia, Nancy and Ester help and hire: they hand out loaves of bread to runaway wives, pay moms to sweep floors, or deliver cakes. Over time MaFia’s bakery becomes what has never been seen on television before…AN ALL FEMALE MAFIA!

In season one (present day/flash backs to the years 1969-1970) we find our heroines: fully realized CEO/crime bosses on their way to the wake of Sophia’s dead husband Dominick. The three women reminisce how against all odds, with the best intentions, this ‘organization’ came to be…how this trio realized their true potential, confidence and power…how through the use of every tool in their box- beauty, brains, bribes, manipulation, sex and violence, the three best friends gain the means to help other women, literally feeding the mob of beauties that become their ‘famiglia’. Ma MaFia’s develops into an all-women’s organized crime family. Hence Ma MaFia. (SoFia is called Fia)

The following seasons of Ma MaFia are filled with the crime family’s intense interpersonal relationships…stories overflowing with love, laughter, sex, hate, jealousy, violence, greed, betrayal and hope. A true melodrama played out with all the lament of a Verdi Opera. The audience is kept on the edge of their seats via the lives of these women, their men, children, loves, losses, as well as successes…our women not only learn how money and power corrupt but how absolute power, corrupts absolutely! Think of the Godfather and how it started with olive oil, and insert three women as close as sisters, who start with one bakery and a dream to help other troubled women.

Ma MaFia’s lead women: SoFia Jean DeSalinda (ages 68/28) a classic Italian beauty…buxom bombshell (think Sophia Loren) a dreamer, a physically stunning brilliant woman who grew up poor with a sexually abusive Dad. She hungers for education, longs for the day when she can get far away from her father yet ends up marrying a man who is more sick and twisted as he…the abuse she suffers leads her to doubt and second guess herself…as well as inspires her to become a fully realized man- controlling MINX, a brilliant all powerful CEO, the head of an empire worthy of Alexander the Great. (Think Dynasty’s Alexis Carrington Colby Dexter) Quote: “It’s amazing what you can do when you have to."

Nancy Ronni Katzon (ages 70/30) a poor Jewish princess, tall, beautiful, with an intellect equal to or greater than SoFia and Ester…talented, artistic, fiercely loyal- insecure, with a great humor based in suffering. (Think Judith Light meets Roseanne) Nancy’s drive and business savvy help put the bakery on the map. The loathing of her verbally abusive Mother is undeniable. Underestimated at every turn she blossoms into a formidable woman and enemy of anyone, or anything that stands in her way. Quote: “Friends are like beans…they talk behind your back.”

Ester Haley Merlot (ages 72/32) A voluptuous Afro American woman and center of the three… she is all business, all woman. Tough as nails, soft as silk, she moves and operates with style, class, grit and brains…yet has a well-hidden vulnerable side. This ‘Cleopatra Jones’ talent for business and art rival Murdoch and Mozart. She and her Mother Barbra are the rudder leading the sisters through life. Quote: “For your friends you are there, for your family you bleed.”

We follow the women’s journey back and forth through four decades, from crime boss/grandmothers to young wives/mothers in their twenties/thirties. In the final season all story lines intersect with a crescendo of grief and hope…we find our three beautiful mature Grandmothers…”BELLE-DONNAS” who also happen to own the largest bread and baked goods conglomerate in the country-albeit with rumors about ‘how they got their start’. The rise of women is played out in the personal stories of these three besties…they surprise themselves, their kids and families…shock and turn the tables on their husbands and become part of a movement that changed the country. (Think Madmen meets Fargo and the Sopranos’). WHAT A RIDE!

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Darlene Faust - 02/14/2018

So very sorry for your loss

Paula and John DeRuosi - 02/14/2018

Jim - we are so sorry for you Toni, and the kids. Our thoughts and prayers are with you ♥️

Tom's CA Family - Julia, David, Laura & Ryan, Bria - 02/14/2018

Our deepest condolences to you Ken and all of Tom's Family. Our prayers are with you all.

Marcia C. Cunha - 02/14/2018

So sorry for this terrible news ... love you guys xoo

Frank Ciccone - 02/14/2018

My deepest condolences to the friends and family of Tommy. Fly high and until we meet again.

Jenn Szcesniak - 02/14/2018

Ken and Family,
Sending you my condolences and much love ...thinking of you

Pat Carney - 02/14/2018

Ken, please know that all of us SENers are thinking about you at this awful time. Tom's music is lovely.

Dee Archambault - 02/14/2018

Ken, wishing you were here so that I could just hug you. I remember you describing your first meeting with Tom. That light never left your eyes.

Gloria Quinn - 02/14/2018

I am so very sorry for you loss...many prayers your way.

Dolores DiMeo Carroll - 02/14/2018

Dear Ken, Linda and the whole family,
My heart hurts for you and with you.. May all of Tom's beautiful memories help carry you through the difficult days

Elaine Morton - 02/14/2018

My heart is breaking. I will forever miss this amazing songbird....sing with the angels Tommy...your voice will resonate on Earth. Thank you for all you taught Amanda, and thank you for all the wonderful memories. We had so much fun every time we were together. Prayers to all of the family. May God comfort all of you.

Ken and Trent - 02/14/2018

Words cannot express our sorrow for your loss.
Tom was a talented and loving man, and you were his muse, his love and his life.
Linda, Bob, Jean and the rest of Tom”s family...his love of art, music and his creative talent was only eclipsed by the love and dedication he had for all of you...his most cherished thing on earth... his family.
Tom was a dear friend and we will surely miss him. His love, his sense of humor, his passion for everything he stood for.
We are the lucky ones to have an angel like Tom, to watch over us.

Trent - 02/14/2018

I would be remiss if I didnt mention Jake. Tom loved his baby, Jake, and Jake loved him. Big hugs to my buddy, Jake!❤️

Paula abbene - 02/14/2018

My condolences to all the family at this difficult time! Tommy was spirited, kind and a comedian all in one! He will be sadly missed! RIP young man! Luv always

Cliff and Kandee Deck - 02/15/2018

To Linda, Bob, and family of Tom, sending our love to you at this very sober time. Have been thinking of you all week with a heavy heart. May God bless all of you.

Thomas Layton & Larry Layton - 02/15/2018

Kenny, hugs and condolences at this difficult, painful time to you, as well as family, and friends. Words don’t often fail me, however I’m at a loss. You’ve been in my constant thoughts and prayers. We will be in touch.

Lynn Raimondo-Pacheco - 02/15/2018

Love, prayers and hearfelt sympathy to all of Tommy's family and loved ones. He was such an unforgettable and talented hunk of a man... I will never forget the way he sang Ave' Maria.

Kim Einloth - 02/15/2018

So sorry for your loss. Sending loving thoughts.

Therese Curran - 02/15/2018

Dear Ken and Family, my deepest condolences to all. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Kathy Grey - 02/15/2018

Oh where does one even begin to embrace the deep loss you are feeling. May Tom's spirit soar high and free. Ken and Tom's family and friends are in my thoughts and prayers.

Amanda Castore - 02/15/2018

My deepest sympathy to Tommy’s family. He was a wonderful acting coach and an even better person. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Vivian Weaver - 02/16/2018

Tom was my neighbor, and the very best kind of neighbor at that. I'll miss him and the many 10 minute conversations that we enjoyed just because we'd both be getting the mail or he'd be out with Jake. My thoughts will be with you whenever I look at your house.

Anthony "Barrel" Marrapese - 02/17/2018

I was devastated to hear of Tom's passing. I have known him since he was a kid, back in CYO. He has recorded many songs at my studio. Thankfully, we still had all of his masters, and his memory through the thing he loved most, SING, will live on. RIP Tom.

Mark & L.E. Laperchia - 02/17/2018

Tommy was a beautiful man, with a big heart and an amazing voice. Our heartfelt condolences to his family and everyone he loved.

Anita Sammartino - 03/18/2018

Dear Linda, Ken, Jeannie, Jim and Grace and families, My family and I just found out about Tommy's passing and are devastated for your loss. Tommy was a force of nature - His talent, creativity, wit, and huge heart are the legacy he left to all of you. I was just speaking with him in December. He was so enthusiastic about his TV project and I'd planned to meet with him in the new year to hear all about it. May he regale the angels with song, and bring solace to your hearts. God bless you, tommy!

Tonya Sammartino - 03/18/2018

Dear Linda, Ken, Jean, Grace and family, My deepest condolences to all of you during this very difficult time. Tommy will always be remembered. He had such a big wonderful personality. Sending you my love and prayers.

Pam Brennan - 03/21/2018

My sweet Bozo The Clown. You were my favorite. Rest easy my dear friend.

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